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If you had someone standing next to you for 12 hours a day telling you how worthless you were, would you allow it? If someone walked up to you in the clothing store and told you that you're too fat for that shirt and your arms will look like skin parachutes hanging off of there, you'd rightfully sock them in the nose (or turn the other cheek and walk away- I'll let you decide). |
Can you imagine having a co-worker tell you that you'll never get promoted because you're not good enough? Picture a friend looking you right in the eyes and telling you that nobody, not a soul on this earth will ever love you. What if every day that you woke up and opened your eyes, someone rolled over next to you and said "Good morning! You're ugly, fat, and stupid- nobody even cares about you, why bother getting up?"
What would you do? Would you embrace these people, agree their right and ask for more? Would allow them to pick you apart day after day? No! You'd tell them all to go to hell and get outta your life. If you were the victim in these abuse situations you'd tell them all to leave, you'd get outta there, or get help from someone who loves you.
But what if you're the abuser? What if you're the one telling yourself that you're useless, that no one cares, that no one will ever want you?
What would you do? Would you embrace these people, agree their right and ask for more? Would allow them to pick you apart day after day? No! You'd tell them all to go to hell and get outta your life. If you were the victim in these abuse situations you'd tell them all to leave, you'd get outta there, or get help from someone who loves you.
But what if you're the abuser? What if you're the one telling yourself that you're useless, that no one cares, that no one will ever want you?
While you'd never dream of saying those awful things to your spouse, your co-workers or people you care about, you have no problem telling yourself what a worthless piece of shit you are, day in, day out. What kinda marriage is that? An abusive one, and the only marriage where you can both be the victim and the abuser.
- Who told you that you couldn't do anything, and when did you decide to keep replaying that in your head?
- Where did you get the idea that no one will ever love you and when did you decide to agree with them?
- At what exact pound did you become "fat"?
- When did doing your best become not good enough?
- Was there a defining moment in your abuse, or have you been hurting yourself for so long that you can't even remember anymore?
Turning that on its head, when was the last time you told yourself that you are worthy of love and affection? Can you remember a time that you looked yourself in the mirror and gave mercy to the eyes looking back at you?
Just like marriage, we can forget all that makes us wonderful and stop appreciating the small miracles of everyday love. If you're intent on making your self-love marriage work, you've got to stop being the abuser- and the victim.
Just like marriage, we can forget all that makes us wonderful and stop appreciating the small miracles of everyday love. If you're intent on making your self-love marriage work, you've got to stop being the abuser- and the victim.
- Love has no room for impatience. "You'll never get promoted."
- Love has no room for cruelness. "You're so ugly."
- Love doesn't make you feel less than. "You'll never have what she does."
- Love doesn't dishonor you. "You can't do anything right and never have."
True love, real, deeply felt and experienced love, keeps no record of wrongs. It is patient, kind, and ever enduring. To begin to love yourself, you must create a vision of the world from a new perspective. You must see yourself the way Love sees you, and treat yourself just as you would a new found flame.
You don't have to be the monster in the mirror. You can choose to be the light. You don't have to tell yourself you hate yourself anymore. You can leave the past in the past. You can choose to forgive yourself for your regrets and be kind to yourself.
You don't have to be the monster in the mirror. You can choose to be the light. You don't have to tell yourself you hate yourself anymore. You can leave the past in the past. You can choose to forgive yourself for your regrets and be kind to yourself.
The monster in the mirror isn't you, and never really was. What you see is a reflection of fear staring back at you, and if you want to slay this demon and see yourself again, there's only one cure and only one hero who can administer it.
Only love can drive out fear and only self-love can drive out self-hate. If you want to find yourself again, you must first be willing to kill the monster in the mirror, and when you fight with love, you will win- because my dear, love always wins- so go slay your demons.
Sometimes the only good things you’ll hear are the things you tell yourself. So shut out the haters and start being your own hero. Here are 10 phrases to say in front of the mirror to empower and strengthen your soul.
I accept myself unconditionally right now.
I am my own experiment. I am my own work of art.
I don’t work hard because I hate my body; I work out because I love it.
I had a purpose before anyone had an opinion and I’m going to fulfill it.
I am the hero of my life, not the victim.
I will make it.
I survived because the fire inside me burned brighter than the fire around me.
The difference between who I am and who I want to be is what I do, and what I have to do to get where I want to be may not be pretty or may not come easy.
I am strong, and strong is sexy.
I own who I am, what’s happened to me, and the choices I’ve made.
I'm in full control of who I will become; I'm in charge of my own life.
You're already a badass, you've just forgotten who you really are in the struggle. Find a way to remember who you were before the world told you who you should be.
Use these 10 phrases to empower yourself and find your why.
Use these 10 phrases to empower yourself and find your why.
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