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Why It Feels Like Everyone’s Life Is Perfect Except For Yours

5/29/2017

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​Every picture on Facebook is a happy one. Friends partying at night, a family day at the park, or two lovers embracing for a selfie. Baby pictures, prom dates, graduation pictures and new haircuts load one after the other. 
There's the sales ads, the chain messages you know aren't real and the few crazies sprinkled in for our own amusement. This is social media. 
As much as we consume, the line between what's virtual and what's real gets blurred. The friends you have online, are your friends, not just virtual ones. We've begun blending the two realities and nothing could be more dangerous for our self esteem. 
If Facebook is a representation of our lives, then we can easily assume that everyone is financially stable, happy and growing. Well, except for you of course. You're just the one scrolling through and seeing another friend lost 30lbs; a before and after picture with 50 Likes staring at you while your belly sits happily over your waist line.  
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​Everyone has got their lives together while you're just trying to not spill your coffee down your shirt. As a matter of fact, how often do you see posts about the bad traffic or fights that were screamed out in kitchens? 
You never see pictures with tears, or posts announcing someone's greatest fear. But you do see everyone's new house, new car, and new relationship, promotion, and success. Well, except for you. You're still budgeting your groceries, praying you'll have enough to cover the bills. 

No one posts, "cried myself to sleep again" or "I'm afraid I'll never be loved"; and if you do, it's usually in a long string of paragraphs from the "crazy" people on Facebook, that you ignore as utter ramblers and attention seekers.
Yet, weren't you just just facing your own demons in bed last night? But you'd never share that would you? 
So, if Facebook is a representation of our lives, then life is pretty damn perfect. Except for yours. You're generally running from one fire to another, not being able to put them all out, while Stacy just got done with her 5k and is on her way to Starbucks with the girls. You haven't even ran the dishwasher.  
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​Everyone's life is beautiful, easy, seemingly perfect. Except yours. You compare yourself to the happy faces staring at you through the screen. You envy, you wish, you despise yourself for not being more. Why can't you get it together? 
You can't help but compare and contrast what's right in front of you, and feed the beast yourself with your perfect moments, captured and filtered. 
And while you are aiming to show your significance to the world, to say, "Hey! I'm perfect too!", someone else is looking at your filtered perfection and hating their own. 
For every perfect Stacy, there is the real Stacey who feels like she's never good enough. For every John Smith who gets the girl, gets the job, and gets the life, is a man who's trying to live up to an impossible vision of what a man is. 

Have you ever considered that you are someone else’s Stacey or someone's John Smith? Yes, you. Spilled coffee, dirty dishes and with only 2 pennies to rub together, you. Your life, as you present it, is greater than their reality and the same pain that afflicts you, also afflicts them. 

Somewhere right now, while you're reading this, someone is scrolling through their newsfeed and seeing your post or picture, wishing they had that life. Your life. And then you're scrolling through looking at someone else's wishing it was yours: Our self esteem slowly eroding with each passing day, week and year while we are trying to stay in the game, drowning in the need to be perfect.  
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​Everyone's life is perfect. Well, except yours. And maybe that's not such a bad thing. Maybe, your truthful representations, or honest posts that lack the gloss of a filter, can be a small reminder that perfection isn't real. 

Everyone's seeing success after success. Well, except you. And maybe, that's not such a lonely place after all. Perhaps the failures that you share will encourage others in their own failings. 

Everyone's happy with their looks, their finances and their lives. Well, except for you. And maybe, that's not as scary as you think it is. Maybe, your lack of money, or health, reminds someone else they aren't alone in their own lack.

Nope, you're not perfect. You don't have your shit together. You forget things, fall short, and dream more than you get done. What if you shared that with the world? What if you unfiltered your life? What would happen if we all fell in love with our real selves so we never had to share our fake selves? 

Everyone else is perfect. Except you. You have the power to be authentic; and that my friend, is far better than perfect.  
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How To Stop the 5 Most Common Bad Habits That Are Holding You Back

5/1/2017

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You said last week you'd start walking every night, well, you told yourself that last month too but it never happened. That great idea for a book you wanted to write, or the exercise routine you wanted to start, or even just reading for 30 minutes a night. Why are all these seemingly simple tasks so hard to implement?
​     Most of us have fallen prey to the 5 most common bad habits that left unchecked, will end up controlling your life and holding you back. 

Bad Habit #1
​ Stop Making Elaborate Plans You Know You Won't Stick To

​Why is that when starting something you have to make detailed plans of operations, time tables, schedules and minute by minute plays? Do you tell yourself that if you plan for it seriously enough, that you'll also implement it seriously ? Or is it that you are procrastinating doing the thing you know you must do by over planning? Because the fact remains that's it's easier to dream than it is to do, and somewhere inside you know that and in those elaborate plans you're making you know you are taking the easy way out.
​      You're making it so complicated that you're setting yourself up for failure, you're setting the bar so high, the more you prepare, the more daunting it becomes. The last I checked, none of us put that much effort into making our morning coffee or deciding when you'll shower. So why aren't you taking that same mindset of "just do it" with your goals of working out more or eating healthy? 

Bad Habit #2
Realize That Implementing Something Small Is Just As Difficult As Implementing Something Large, So start Small

​Deciding to do 5 push-ups every morning can be as overwhelming as setting a goal to do 100. Why? Because it's less about the task at hand, and more about your commitment to get started on it, and keep doing it. Deciding to mediate every day for 30 minutes takes the same amount of energy to start as meditating for 3 minutes.
​      Don't focus on the enormity of the task, and just focus on starting it. Realize that it's the implementation of the task you're having a hard time with, not the task itself and you'll soon find yourself more focused, calm and prepared.  

Bad Habit #3
​Stop Expecting Perfection From Yourself 

​What does success mean to you? Do you define it as perfection? Are you not pleased unless you've done a perfect job? Followed your plan to the letter, or completed it just as you planned? Well, I have bad news for you, there is no perfect. It's an imaginary standard you'll never meet and if you define your success by your perfection, you'll always fail yourself.
     "If I can't do it perfectly, I don't want to do it at all" is an excuse. It's far better to do something than nothing, so stop expecting perfection. It's impossible. 

Bad Habit #4
​Stop Waiting For The Perfect Moment Or Mood

​It's been said many times, many different ways; if you are waiting on the perfect moment, it will never happen. And we know this, so why don't we apply it in our lives?
      You're giving too much power to your feelings, and last I checked you're in control of your mood and your feelings. So let me get this straight; you're in full control of your feelings and yet blame them for not creating the perfect moment? Who's in charge here? You are. You can either create the perfect time, or use the lack of it as an excuse to not accomplish your aspirations. You have all the power in the world, so stop waiting on the perfect moment and create it instead. 

Bad Habit #5
​Stop Talking Yourself Out Of It

​Back to your choice on making coffee this morning. How much thought did you put into it? Did you have a long internal conversation about whether to double up the filters, or whether you need a 1/4 tsp more of coffee for the pot? No. You just got up, and made coffee. So why are you talking yourself out of your goals? Who is this other voice in your head that always says "it's not the right time" or "I'll do it after I...." ?
​      Stop allowing long drawn out conversations in your head to control whether you take action or not. When your inner "do it later" starts, or you find yourself suddenly needing to polish silverware instead of doing what you promised yourself... that's when you know you're talking yourself out of your mission. Implementing your goals is as easy as deciding to make coffee- if you can turn off the self talk.  

​Don't let these 5 bad habits hold you back from your aspirations, if you have a dream, you have it because you are supposed to fulfill it, not just make excuses as to why you can't do them.
     I believe you were created stronger than that, smarter than that, and more powerful than you might be able to image. Conquer these common 5 bad habits and you're the one in the drivers seat; nothing can hold you back from starting what you've envisioned for yourself. 

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